FINE

I hate the word "Fine". It's the 'other' 4-letter "F" word. It's a very bad word. It's a lie. And it's an easy lie.

"How are you?"
"Fine."
"How's everything going?"
"Fine."
"How's work, the kids, your husband?"
"Fine. Thanks. How are yours?"
"Oh, they're fine. Thanks."

It's bullsh*t.

I use 'fine' because I know that the people asking me how I am doing really don't care. They are asking to be polite.

There are very few people who ask me and REALLY want to know how I'm doing. These people get an honest answer. And when I give it, I know it will be prayed about, listened to, and that they truly care.

People who get 'fine' are the people I don't trust. Too many times I've said, "not so good", and had the person say, "Oh that's good. Me too". Or they ask and before I can say something, they're onto the next person or looking over my shoulder at everyone else.

Really. If you don't care, don't ask. I can tell if you care. If you get a "fine" then you haven't come off as sincere, and I don't trust you.

Sadly, when someone tells me they're fine, I take from that that they are NOT fine, and that they don't trust me. This makes me sad. You might be surprised how ready and willing I am to listen.

That is all. For tonight.
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